Somewhere in the corner of college campuses, a student is weeping and suffering from the torment of bullying. It has been seen that the students who get bullied ruthlessly also end up bullying others. People usually perceive that a victim will develop empathy towards the weaker person and won’t inflict pain on them, but this is not necessarily the case.
Bully-victims are often raised after being constantly bullied. They choose bullying as an attempt to restore their lost sense of power. They target weak students and inflict emotional and physical pain, which makes them feel powerful and dominant. They consider bullying as a way to retaliate against the feeling of vulnerability. However, most of the bully-victims are born in an environment where domestic violence is usual.
Look out for these six ways that every student and their family should know to empathize with the victims of bullying.
- Excessive psychological stress
Bullied-victims go through excessive psychological stress as any other type of victim or bully. This psychological stress often leads to other mental disorders like depression, anxiety, and isolation. They may also show symptoms of other psychological problems like psychosis, substance abuse, and anti-social personality disorder. Research suggests that excessive mental stress adversely impacts a student’s personality development.
- Have trouble adjusting
Bullied-victims are often tended to be alone in college. It has been seen that they avoid social interaction with their peers and are willing to be left alone. They mostly want to connect through online channels rather than having a face-to-face interaction. This is the reason why most of the bully-victims are often seen practising cyberbullying. Bullied-victims are deemed to be socially inactive and less cooperative than those around them.
- Bad at managing emotions
Bully-victims are so bad at controlling their emotions, especially the feelings of anger and frustration. They show intensified reactions towards insults, name-calling and often lash out their frustration and anger by bullying other students. Because of the inability in controlling their emotions, they are often vulnerable to be bullied repeatedly. And later on, they do the same with their fellow students, and the cycle of bullying continues.
- Struggle academically
Research shows that bully-victims feel vulnerable at school all the time. They feel insecure and unsafe at school, perceiving that they don’t belong here. This leads to poor performance in classroom tests and exams. This is the reason why most of the bullies have bad grades. They usually make use of their bullying behaviour to have their work done by others. You might see them saying, “Pay Someone To Do My Essay, or else I will make their life a living hell.” They must have been the victim of such behaviour at home or college, and now they’ve turned to other fellows for making them experience the same.
- They experience the consequences of both victim and bullies
The utter agony and feeling of guilt hinder their psychological state of mind. Those bullies who have also been the victim once had to face the consequences of both bullies and the victim. Such people even try to contemplate suicide due to excessive depression. Children who have witnessed domestic violence at home are at higher risk of vulnerability to suicidal thoughts.
- The aggressive response to stress
The researchers have found that most bully-victims are believed to carry weapons at school or perceive that it is acceptable to bring weapons to school or college. These students have heightened emotions and always in search of opportunities to project their anger at someone aggressively by inflicting emotional and physical pain onto them.